Saturday, November 12, 2016

Modern-day Progressives are turning me Conservative.

I was certainly raised in a conservative family. At least by modern-day standards. My parents were gun-owning, Jesus-loving, pro-life promoting Republicans. To qualify, and unfortunately this must be said, they weren't and aren't racist. They treated everyone the same and we were expected to act the same. This being in part I'm sure to both my mother being a social worker, and my father being in the military for 22 years. It's rather hard to be racist when you've been in 32 different countries and seen different cultures first hand.

At any rate, I followed suit with their ideology as I grew up. I remember sponsoring some very conservative arguments at mock congress in high school. This isn't at all untypical. Most children do somewhat adopt the ideology or politics of their parents.

As I got older and saw more of the world, my ideology changed a bit. I wouldn't say that I completely gave up my conservative background, but I did become much more progressive. The gay marriage conundrum didn't matter to me. I had gay friends. It didn't affect me personally, so why would I care? And as a Christian, who am I to tell people how to love, how to worship, or how to live? It wasn't my place, and it wasn't wrong to me. So, I evolved somewhat. And eventually, I decided to liken myself to more of a Libertarian sort of philosophy. What people do behind close doors is none of my business unless it infringed on my rights.

I guess the social climate of this country changed after 9/11. I was in my mid 20's when the attack happened. What I noticed was an initial coming together of everyone in the nation. Other nations stood in solidarity with the US, and we all learned to lean on each other. It was a sad thing to see, but an incredible thing to see, this social consciousness.

Then things started to change rapidly. Suddenly, it became socially wrong to say things that hurt people's feelings. It started small. I remember dating my then boyfriend, who by the way was a Muslim, and I remember us talking about how the British were much more racist than Americans- his words, not mine. In the next breath, he would talk down about America in a way that was mystifying. Here was a young man who got a visa, went to school free in this country, and lived with his mother who stayed home and lived on public assistance.

Back then, in those early to mid-years of the 2000's, it was still acceptable to tell him the truth. To tell him that if he didn't like this country that was doing so much for him and his family that he was welcome to leave it. And he had no comeback, either. Back then common sense prevailed. If you disliked your situation, no matter what it was? You changed it. And you didn't bite the proverbial hand that fed you.

But the seeds were already there. Which is why I came to find out later on that he was allowed to get away with things at work that had anyone else done it they would have been fired. They just didn't want to offend him. And eventually, he was fired, but only because the evidence they had on him was physical proof and it couldn't be ignored.

Please understand. I don't harbor him any ill-will. I'm only speaking of a situation to illustrate the start of an ongoing agenda that has bled into modern day society. I wish and hope he is well.

As time progressed the agenda of "progressiveness" became stronger. A lot of it I welcomed. Granted, I didn't think free speech should be hindered, but I enjoyed that people were becoming more self-aware of what they were saying. I liked the openness to different lifestyles and ideas.

And then came the election year of Obama's first term. For the record, I feel that Obama is a man with good intentions. And I'm aware that many conservatives called him things like the "anti-christ", and they weren't joking. Of which I would roll my eyes. The man wasn't the antichrist. What he was was a man who reigned in the era of hyper-awareness. This hyper-awareness, however, was not being used for self-reflection. It was used to be aware of how others were acting.

Suddenly, it was identity politics all around. White CIS males didn't understand the dilemma, you see. And racism was everywhere. And everyone was oppressed that wasn't white. And feminism was about equality for all, but how about those conservative bigots, ehhhh?

And so Obama was elected into office, and things got worse. Small minorities of white folks acted dumb, and suddenly the whole white race was indicted by some. Then it was white privilege, which I agree with in some regard. It just led to white guilt and apologists for things that most people never did or participated in to begin with.

The problem with the above arguments is that it was rhetoric that took away from a very real issue. Is there still racism? Yes. Of course, there is, but when you hear about it constantly, and you're being told over and over that you're racist simply because you're either white or you don't 100% agree with the other side? The argument loses it's value because people tune it out.

No one wants to be told they suck all the time.

Black people felt oppressed. They feared for their lives. They were being shot by cops with what seemed like a constant rate. And it was understandable that they felt that way with the media finding any story they could to promote that. It generated headlines, brought people to their facebook pages, and made them money via hits. So they stoked the fires. Even to the point of showing up at the cities where these shooting occurred as they waited for rioting and poor behavior from black people.

And then Progressives REALLY began to lay it on thick. The time for discussion was over. Either you get with the program, or you're the enemy. Refrains of someone being a racist, or a bigot, or a woman hater sprang up thru the land. You were wrong. They were on the side of the oppressed. The people who supposedly couldn't speak for themselves.

Except they weren't. The same people, black people, STILL felt oppressed. Furthermore, not only did black people still feel this way, but almost everyone who was not left leaning felt the same, too! Suddenly, a literal nation of people felt marginalized and insignificant. Except the Liberals/Progressives. They felt fine. And they were "fighting the good fight". And that was either by patting you on your head like a pet if you were black, or insulting and looking down on you if you disagreed with them.

Then the 2016 election cycle started, and shit really hit the fan.

Of course, it started with Donald Trump. This is not the first time he has contemplated running. Honestly, when I heard he was going to run? I rolled my eyes. Then 16 other candidates for the GOP nomination. It became a circus, and Trump became the ring leader. People mocked Trump and said he would never win the nomination. Almost every competitor being an "establishment" republican.

Then Donald Trump won the nomination.

He didn't win it because he was a great candidate. He won it because of everything I've written about so far. People were tired. They were tired of the placating and the lip service. They were tired of the same ole, same ole. And they were sure tired of being told how awful they were. So, they voted him in as the nominee.

Meanwhile, a more "civilized" nomination process was happening on the DNC side with Bernie Sanders and Hillary Clinton. Bernie started a movement within the DNC. Hillary, on the other hand, represented everything that people didn't want, which was interestingly enough very similar to their GOP counterpart's complaints. She was "establishment". Not only that, but she was seemingly corrupt. She was investigated by both the FBI and had to go in front of congress for both Benghazi AND her emails. She represented cronyism and everything people were so against in the 2016 election cycle. At least she wasn't like Donald Trump and she kept it nice and clean.

Except she didn't.

Thru the marvel of Wikileaks, we found out the truth. We found out that the Clinton campaign along with the DNC worked adamantly to discredit Bernie. To malign him and to take his movement away. Not only that, but we learned that Clinton's campaign WANTED Trump to win the nomination because they felt he was easy to beat. That's right, they encouraged and promoted him to win the nomination. Let that one sink in. They wanted him to get the nomination.

Then we get on the subject of the media. Clinton is now partially blaming the media for her defeat at the hands of Donald Trump.

Is she kidding?

First, we know this isn't true because again, Wikileaks showed emails of major news organizations openly colluding with her campaign. Up to and including giving her actual debate questions. Giving her news articles before they were even sent to the "journalists" editor. I literally couldn't go thru a DAY without seeing some article on Trump because he didn't wash his hands after he peed- that's really how bad it was. Sometimes, I'd see media pages post three and four articles a day about him. Sometimes, they'd wait a few days, and then regurgitate the same article again. Meanwhile? Wikileaks, emails, or comments from Hillary? Very little coverage. To say that she lost because of the media being unfair to her is like me saying I'm overweight because companies make food.

Hillary lost because she was a bad candidate. Period. Because people are tired of any oligarchies with the name Bush or Clinton attached to it. Because she knocked out the most viable candidate who could have beat Trump with her own lust for greed and trickery.

Mostly, she lost because the Democratic Party has lost touch with the American people and is living in a bubble. They have lost their way.

So, now to everyone's surprise- mine as well, Trump has won.

And now I see a basic "sea of white" protesting the results of a legitimate general election. Mostly White and Hispanic protesters- I feel that this is probably in part to the Black voters not only feeling oppressed still, but knowing that protesting does little for their cause- and Democrats only help them every four years when it's time to cash in on their votes. Also mostly Millenials, which by the way had the lowest amount of voter turn-out in this election, are treating this country like we're a 3rd world country. They're vandalizing property. They're burning mannequins of the President-elect. There's even been shootings. All because things didn't turn out how they thought they should.

And now our "Progressives", who hated Donald Trump because he was going to bring violence to this nation, are being violent. Worse, both Clinton supporters and Progressives are attacking people who voted for Trump. Calling them racists and xenophobes. Blaming them for Trump's victory. You horrible, nasty deplorable!

Blame yourselves. He won because of you.

He won because you stopped trying to help people, and started judging them. He won because you shamed anyone who said they'd vote for him, and they kept silent- and that's why your polls were so off. He won because you didn't take him seriously. He won because you talk a good game, you act sympathetic, but do nothing to change it. He won because you think your righteous indignation of what is right and wrong is the only way.

That is why he won.

And I find myself in a precarious position. I'm socially progressive, but I find myself at odds with the same people who deem themselves the same way. As the media continues to report of current racism, they conveniently leave out the group of people that gleefully beat up a Trump supporter. Or my friends who have told me personally that they're afraid to even admit who they voted for. Or my friends who say they have been verbally attacked for voting for Trump- and not on social media, either. They're being attacked in the streets and on college campuses. Or the children who are being attacked and criticized perpetuated with half-truths from the media driven "hate squad" to invoke fear or loathing.

At this point, I would much rather prefer to call myself a Conservative if this is what being a "Progressive" has turned into.

Enjoy the good fight, "right fighters"....but before you do? Perhaps you should think about the fact that the Democrats lost the House in 2010, the Senate in 2014, and now the Presidency in 2016.

Perhaps a little self-evaluation is in order.

Tuesday, October 11, 2016

This Isn't My Country Anymore

I'm not usually one to journey into hard politics on my blog. My page is designed for jokes, and I also write about disabilities.

Today, I'm going to write about my country.

More specifically? How I'm being lied to in the name of, "what's good for the country".

Now, I'm sure people will assume that I'm going to write about either Trump, or Clinton. I will talk about them, too. They're just not the biggest problem we're struggling with right now. We have a far more insidious threat to this country right now.

It's the media. And by "media", I mean not only actually the news outlets, but social media as well.



These are the trending items that I woke up to this morning on Facebook. I want you to pay close attention to how many people are talking about each item. If you notice, "Gloria Alfred" is the top trending item on Facebook. Notice that she only has 12,000 people talking about her. Yet, she is the top choice on "trending items". Why is that, exactly?

Now, I'm sure if you were to ask Facebook, they'd have many reasons as to why this is on top of the trending items. They'll say because it's trending quickly. Or perhaps they'll say that what trends on Facebook is based on my profile. All somewhat valid arguments.

Here's what I do know: placement matters. Statistically, people pay more attention to the first few line items on both searches and lists. Google knows this, which is why it offers businesses the chance to pay for their web pages to be at the top of internet results.

I actually did a short stint at a company that operated a job site. One thing you were able to do was place your resume at the very top so that employers would see it first. Employers don't start at the bottom. They start at the top.

So, let's look a little bit more at what has the highest number of people "talking" about it:

The first item would be Melania Trump. Specifically, her "trolling" of the Clintons by wearing a shirt with a very interesting name. Second would be Anderson Cooper, and his drilling of Donald Trump during the last debate. By comparison, Bill Clinton is the 5th item down, despite it having more people talking about it than the top three items combined.

This is a common phenomenon. When the Trump video leaked, I noticed that Wikileaks, which had one million people talking about it? Was at the dead bottom. To be fair, they eventually moved it up. Still, I never saw it become the top trending item on my Facebook page. This was despite it having more people talking about it than any other single item on Facebook.

Now, I'm sure that people who read this will say that I'm a "conspiracy theorist". I'm also sure I'll be told I'm a horrible Trump supporter. I'm neither, for the record.

I'm a right fighter, and I don't enjoy being lied to.

Trump is an inflammatory, big mouthed misogynist. If you don't believe that? Then I have some swampland in the desert to sell you. He is a horribly flawed person. With that being stated, so is Clinton. She is a horribly flawed, corrupt person.

And the media knows this. And they use every tool at their disposable to make sure Clinton's flaws are kept out of the public eye as much as possible. And this isn't a conspiracy theory, either. It's been proven. Not only does the media assist her in looking as clean as possible, but her own political party, which is supposed to be neutral towards all candidates running? Well, we know they're not. They openly conspired against someone she was running against.

In those same emails that show the DNC colluding with Clinton's campaign? We see major news outlets sending articles to the Clinton camp before the articles are even sent to the paper's editor. We see news outlets sending information about running mates and opposition to the Clinton Campaign.

And this behavior still continues today.

I watched the CNN debate on Sunday. I watched three people debating Trump. Following that, I saw a "focus group" of undecided voters. Unfortunately, the reporter running that "focus group" got caught on a hot mic (aren't those a bitch) priming an "undecided" on what to say. She gently reminded the voter what to say, and then I sat and watched the "undecided" voter regurgitate exactly what the reporter had just said to her.

Don't get me wrong. Along with the Huffington Post "articles" on how small Trump's hands are, I see conservative outlets doing the same thing. I recently saw an article about Obama using offensive language. Well, he WAS using offensive language. He was also reading a passage from his book that was about a conversation with someone else. So, many conservatively minded outlets do the same thing.

That being said, conservative news sources don't have the voice that the "liberal media" does. They don't control the media as a whole. They don't control Facebook's trending items. In fact, most things conservative outlets write about aren't taken very seriously. Which is why when they post something like Wikileaks, which should be incredibly damaging to the Clinton campaign? It's buried.

In the recent drop from Wikileaks? Clinton literally said that she has a public face that she shows the American people, and a private face that she shows to Wall Street. One million people were talking about it. Not at the top of the page. Not discussed by most media outlets. Virtual media black-out.

This is NOT my America. The mainstream media doesn't have a right to make their own narrative and force me to swallow it. We are not a state-run media source. They have a responsibility. The media has a responsibility to report on ALL news. Not just the news that fits into their narrative.

Lying by omission is still lying. If you have some damaging information on a candidate, and you refuse to write about it because of who they are? You're a huge part of the problem. And no matter how noble you feel your intentions are? You're still not giving people the choice to make their own decisions based on all the information.

Hate Trump. Hate Clinton. Or love them with all your heart. I don't care. Just hold the media accountable for how they present the news. Don't allow them to tell you who you should be voting for.

This is not what I want for MY country. Do you?

Thursday, September 1, 2016

The Mighty! Thank you!

https://themighty.com/2016/09/moms-response-to-feel-good-stories-about-disabled-people/

Thank you again to 'The Mighty' for posting my article on ableism.

Many people are upset by this article.

I assumed this would happen.

It's okay. I'm a big girl, and I can take it.

All I ask is that you think about it... consider it.
People with a disability don't want you to feel sorry for them. Or to use them to get hits on an article. Or to use their circumstance to pat yourself on the back.

They want acceptance, and they want to be treated equally. They also don't want the world to perpetuate stereotypes.

P.S. I don't believe the football player did anything wrong. He was being a kind human being. As well, I understand WHY the mother posted it on social media. It's the media, who clearly used this child's autism as "inspirational porn" to get hits.

Saturday, June 11, 2016

An Open Letter to Carleen Turner (Brock Turner's mom)

Pretty much everyone that has an internet connection has heard about your son, Brock Turner. It's been trending everywhere. I'm sure a simple google search would supply me with hundreds upon hundreds of articles about your son- complete with his smiling school picture. No mug shots for him- not unless you dig for them, that is.

When your husband's letter to the Judge Pesky became viral (http://heavy.com/news/2016/06/brock-turner-father-dad-dan-turner-full-letter-statement-stanford-rapist/), many of my friends wondered out loud what you thought. How you, a woman, would feel about your son raping an unconscious woman on January 18th, 2015.

Well today, I found out: http://heavy.com/news/2016/06/carleen-brock-turner-mother-mom-letter-judge-stanford-rape-beautiful-son-parents/

First, I'd like to say that your love for your child shines thru out the entirety of this letter. Hey, I get it. This is your son. You love him. You don't stop loving your child, no matter how atrocious their actions might be.

Still, not one sentence in your letter is dedicated to the pain and lifetime suffering that this young woman will have to endure, and all because your son raped her. And please say it with me, Carleen. Your son is a rapist. I know it, you know it, and the whole world knows it. He was caught by two other men raping her. There is no doubt of this. I know this is a hard pill for you to swallow, but that doesn't make it any less true.

Your son ran when he was confronted, Carleen. He tried to flee the scene.

Reading the context of your letter, I know you're an educated woman. I know that should you think logically on this? You'd know that innocent people don't run. Your son ran for one simple reason. He ran because he thought he would get in trouble. Which means that he knew his actions were questionable at best. He knew that his behavior was wrong, and this is why he ran.

As you explained to the judge, and now the world, that your son does not come from affluence, you take many things for granted.

First, you speak about student loans and debt. In the same letter, you speak of being able to stay home with your child. This, Carleen, is indeed a luxury that many parents don't have. I too am a stay at home mother. No, I'm not wealthy. Yes, I make sacrifices. I also understand that staying home with my daughter is a luxury that many people can't afford to do. There are parents working multiple jobs to make sure their children are taken care of. To you, this isn't affluence. To many, it absolutely is.

You speak about your home that you sold. To be closer to your son. I don't have that luxury, Carleen. I rent my home. This too is a luxury that you seem to overlook. You sold your house because of the added expenses of Brock being in school. There are people out there that don't even have such an option. They work multiple jobs. They have to live off their student loans. They don't have a mommy and daddy to help them with their schooling at all. They're on their own. So, yes, Carleen. This is also affluence, whether you care to admit it or not.

As you wax poetic about Brock, I can't help but notice that you have a daughter. A female child. Out of everything you wrote? This one fact bothers me the most. That you have a daughter.

I feel that if this was your daughter instead of your son, we'd be hearing a very different argument from you, Carleen. No doubt you'd be outraged. You'd feel that your daughter was violated, and you'd want justice for her. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that you'd want the strictest sentence for the person who hurt your child.

Instead, your son is the perpetrator. As such, your vision is clouded on this matter...but it shouldn't be.

You are a woman. A woman with a female child. A woman that unless you've been living under a rock, has had to endure some level of unwanted sexual advances in her life. A woman who if she spoke to her own daughter, would probably hear the same thing from her.

I sincerely hope that above your protection of Brock, that you're letting him know what he did was wrong. I hope you're holding him accountable for his own actions. I hope that you understand that it doesn't matter how much she drank- that she shouldn't have to worry about being raped because another person has such a lack of self control. That considering what he did, that being registered as a tier 3 sex offender and getting three to six months in jail is a cake walk. Especially considering what his victim had to endure.

I really hope you're letting him know how wrong his actions were, Carleen.

I have a daughter, too, Carleen. She's only 5 years old, but the anxiety and fear is very real for me. I have to protect her from the "Brocks" of this world. As I'm sure you'd protect your own daughter in this situation.

Part of protecting our daughters from this behavior is holding those who would hurt them accountable for their actions.

Don't stop loving your son. Just love yourself and your own daughter enough to hold your son accountable for the actions he took on that night In January.

Please.